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Posted by Kitsu on 11-06-2018 at 19:00:

Sad Sorry about the long hiatus...

Hey everyone,
I'm sorry I was gone such a long time from here... What's it been, 2 years...?! Oh my...
Things got difficult after my mother-in-law passed away. I'm sure you can imagine. I spent a lot of time helping my husband and my kids getting through it, which was a difficult task.
And my father-in-law... He was a hot mess. We spent more nights at his house than I care to think about. It went on for a long time before I pretty much snapped and told myself "ENOUGH!" I don't want to sound cold, but we all had lives and none of them revolved around him and I wasn't going to let it be that way. I was the only one (in a house of 3 males) that actually had balls (haha) and stopped to see him one day to have a talk. Don't worry, I was kind and understanding. It was more a discussion of telling him he was falling into this depressive funk, I know how that feels and how hard it is to climb out again, and that he needed to start getting out of the house once in a while to combat that, even if it was just to come to our house. A few days later, he popped in for a visit!
Unfortunately, the only person doing badly was me... I was so focused on helping everyone else that I didn't have time to do my own grieving and deal with everything that happened and all the emotions that surrounded me. My art suffered, I just kind of holed up and stayed away from a lot of things. I even stopped going on Facebook, but that was for more specific reasons... Political crap, people who were overly opinionated or just downright stupid... I just couldn't deal with seeing that all over the place, not at that point.
Things are a little better right now. Everyone has learned how to deal with the loss, I've grieved... Now I feel a little more social. A little...
Just wanted everyone to know I'm still alive and hoping that there are still some active people. I really missed everyone!

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Posted by Redbird on 11-06-2018 at 19:13:

Hey Kitsu!

We’re still here! LOL

I’m so sorry to hear your family has had a rough time, but am glad to see you’re feeling a bit better and that you decided to pop in to say HI. I do remember when you posted last about your FIL, etc

Self care can be really hard at times Frown

I think when the time is right your creativity will get back on track—something is sure to spark your interest and you’ll pick thing back up Smile

Hope you’ll peek in from time to time and let us know how things are going with you!

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Posted by Becky Rock on 11-06-2018 at 23:14:

Hi Kit. Welcome back!

We all work through grief in different ways at different rates. I'm glad you're feeling better.

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Posted by Daniella T on 12-06-2018 at 06:39:

Welcome back Kitsu, and I hope things get better from now on!
It was very brave of you to confront your FIL -- I'm glad it had a positive outcome.



Huggles

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Posted by Kitsu on 13-06-2018 at 15:08:

Thank you everyone! Smile
I'm so grateful for all the love and support from all of you! You guys are the best!

I really think rejoining the world and socializing will help me a lot.
I've been having a bit of an identity crisis lately... My oldest just graduated from high school June 2nd and has a job, my youngest will be 15 on Friday and has a part time job bussing tables at a local diner. And now I'm wondering... With the kids becoming so self sufficient, wtf am I to DO with my life?! It's kind of scary. I'm not sure who I am anymore. But I think becoming more social will help me figure that stuff out.
I'm so glad all of you are there for me! Smile

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