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Posted by Swan_Jun on 26-11-2010 at 00:25:

Facebook and My Zero Tolerance For Swearing

Hi,

I Was On Facebook and I Was Talking To A Friend Who By The Way Is Not My Friend anymore Cause He Called Another Of My Friends A Asshole! I Promptly Removed Him And We're Not Friends I Don't Understand Facbook's Policies Sometimes

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Posted by amethyst on 26-11-2010 at 01:08:

I think it is great that you are standing up for your friend. Just be certain that the name calling wasn't something done in jest or as an inside joke. For example, my uncle considers himself the perfect asshole and quite likely would have taken the statement as a compliment. We like to indulge him often, but always fun and lighthearted.

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Posted by Cep on 26-11-2010 at 17:49:

Wow you ended a friendship with someone because they called another friend a name? Methinks they could not have meant much to you then.

Failing to see how this is Facebook's fault though..

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Posted by UnpublishedWriter on 26-11-2010 at 18:50:

Facebook friends aren't like real world friends.

Yeah, gotta make certain that the whole thing wasn't in jest or from a misunderstanding.

Still, if it's unjustified, stand up for your friends, or offer to mediate. Too many times we don't talk to each other and clear things up. (It's why emoticons can be so handy when texting.)

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Posted by gatchamarie on 26-11-2010 at 19:15:

quote:

Originally posted by UnpublishedWriter
Too many times we don't talk to each other and clear things up. (It's why emoticons can be so handy when texting.)

ITA! You're so right, UW!

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Posted by SJ_SwanJun on 26-11-2010 at 19:32:

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Originally posted by Cep
Failing to see how this is Facebook's fault though..

I agree with you there, Cep. This isn't Facebook's fault at all ...

I agree, also, with the girls who have commented. Make sure -- real sure -- that the statement wasn't made in jest. my buds and I call each other the most horrific of names ... I mean, I repeatedly call Green a censored

, Maddy gets sexy- censored

a lot... But that isn't meant in a negative way. Quite the opposite in fact. They are mere terms of endearment for them ...

But I think that might be an Aussie thing, too. censored

and

and even

are perfectly acceptable salutations ... Yes, this confuses some of my Canadian mates who look at me with horror and say "Did you really just refer to your hubby as censored

?"

But. If it truly offends you, then you are best simply backing off. Asking for clarification is an option, of course, but if that is offensive to you ... well ... choice is always yours right?

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Posted by Joeswench on 27-11-2010 at 02:49:

Breath in....breath out....breath in...breath out.....

I hope you've cooled down a little by now. We all can overreact at times, this ahhh... might be one of those situations with your facebook "friend". But then I'm a Condor and have a good understanding of shoot first...ask questions later callateral damage is yet to be accounted for, (then spend the rest of episode having lectures from the Eagle about rash behaviour.) Think about it..

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Posted by green on 27-11-2010 at 02:56:

Hmm... it is definitely an Aussie thing to use what should be considered insults as terms of endearment. Of course, we also have the tendency to respond to an out and out insult with the very genuine reply of 'thank you!'

I believe it stems from the Poms. In my family (I'm first generation Aussie with English parents), sarcasm is as natural as breathing and while many would say that sarcasm is the lowest form of wit, they just haven't been around masters of the craft to see how truly intricate it can be. As my mother says, a simple answer is just that - simple. Going to the effort of thinking up and executing a snappy reply shows you care.

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